Authors Ronald Adler and Russell Proctor II identified four ways with which we can feel closely connected with our significant other.
Here’s a quick exercise to check you and your partner's compatibility in intimacy.
List the four dimensions as follows: _______________________________________________________ Partner A Partner B Physical Emotional Intellectual Shared Activities _______________________________________________________ Next to each dimension, rank whether this is a “Must” have, “Should” have, or “Could” have for you in your romantic relationship.
Someone who freezes in a relationship typically goes through the motions on the outside, but has stopped caring on the inside.
Successful couples have the ability to solve problems and let it go.
A true test of a relationship is whether two people have each others’ back when times are tough.
Consider these questions: Do external adversity and crisis bring you and your partner closer together, or pull you farther apart?
They flight and avoid important issues by sweeping them under the rug. The take-away is that we should be wary of generalized assertions about the female-male dynamic and look at disciplines such as evolutionary psychology for a more consistent and data-driven understanding of our behaviors. A good part of this article is data driven, but written for the general audience. John Gottman's extensive research at the University of Washington, and Professor Jeffrey Dew's work as part of the National Marriage Project are just two of the sources.
Or, after endless arguments with no resolution in sight, they freeze emotionally and shut down.
Most of us want to meet and settle down with the “right” person, and most of us want such a relationship to last. Ask yourself the following questions: In general, is your partner reliable and dependable? Some people trust blindly, while others have trust issues.