He opens the door for you, and asks do you have kids?
How can your husband have you out here by yourself, fine as you are? He continues with his inquisitive approach to figuring you out, while he asks for your number and a date.
I can’t be the only trans woman this has happened too.
You’re out shopping, a handsome man approaches you and starts a conversation.
You can feel him watching you, studying you and if it’s a good day it just ends innocently there.
Those other days is when his eyes swells, he stops and takes a step back to really look at you. Will you be another statistic, or will this be an educational moment?
It brings to mind old rape defenses from the 1950’s, ‘she wore a red dress, she must have wanted it,’ or better yet, ‘she changed her gender so therefore she must’ve wanted it.’ A second assault on the victim.
After multiple failed romances r'n'b star Bobby V appears to have finally found his match.
Now you wonder did he know all along, as he continues telling you of his fantasies of one day meeting a rare unicorn. As my mother once said, it must not be up to the man how far to go with a woman, because if it was, he’d definitely go all the way every time. Yet, the case of Bobby Valentine² takes it a step deeper than just discarding this as simple hyper-sexualization of the female body.
Yes you are entering the hyper-sexualized zone of being a transgender woman, and in fact, any woman. Before the masculists label me as a male hating feminist, I don’t mean predator in the registered sex offender sense. It’s up to the female, trans or cis, on how far you will let him go. There is a sense of shame, and entitlement to this trans woman’s body. Men pay for discretion, so when Bobby Valentino hit up a transgender escort he was being on the down low, discrete, and not possibly because she was trans.
He begins to figure out your T (truth)¹, or the more politically correct phrase; sees that your gender identity differs from your assigned birth. Then again, could this be the moment you meet your soul mate?
The questions, the anxiety, the uncertainty of being trans, but you got this.
I felt she wanted to tell us something so I reached out to her to find out what was going on between them.