Make sure you change the subject and once the joke is over, don’t keep going back to it if you’ve got nothing better to say.It doesn’t matter how insanely fun you were when you met her because she’ll forget all those positive emotions as soon as you fail to maintain the vibe.Plus, you’re forcing a reaction and what do you seriously expect her to say?
There’s no excuses for falling into the friend zone and even if you think it’s impossible to answer some of her texts with anything other than a friend to friend response then you’re wrong. You might think the only possible answer you can give is “it’s going great, how’s yours”, but instead, this is the perfect opportunity to tease her: “clearly it’s going much better than yours! This way, she’ll probably reply by saying, “nah, mine’s way, way better than yours” and from there you can move into a much more playful frame. Don’t try too hard to act aloof and indifferent all the time.
Sure, it’s cool to be cool, but if you’re too cool, you’ll cool her off. If you don’t show any emotions she’ll think you’re not interested in her. If you got a text from someone you don’t know very well asking why you chose to become a lawyer, would you really be motivated to text them back?
It’s no secret that women love compliments, but too many compliments, especially thrown out too early on will make her think you’re insincere, desperate, are a low value guy and ultimately just want to get in her knickers. Top Tip: Instead of asking questions, make statements with a photo: “mmmmm, I love cats in bread” 7.30am: “Morning (girl’s name) X” 9.05am: “Just got to the office. Hope my boss didn’t notice lol.” pm: “Lunch break YAY! Think I’m gonna go Pret :)” 6pm: “Finished work, going for a drink with some friends.
There’s a common misconception flying around that since women love talking about themselves it’s a good idea to ask them lots of questions. No one wants to be bombarded with questions, especially questions that aren’t fun like “do you always go to that club? Wish you were here :)” 9pm: “I’m back home, did you have a good day? Seriously…if you think giving a girl updates on your day is cool, look at it from her perspective.
Remember, girls look for what you’re sub communicating in your texts, not what you actually say.
Always try to keep your texts as short and sweet as possible.If you gave her a nickname when you met her then that’s fine, but only use nicknames if it’s already an insider joke between the two of you, otherwise it’ll appear like you’ve totally forgotten her. Some guys will lose their mind staring at their phone waiting for her to reply, and when she does they’ll rush to pick it up and reply with something daft and incoherent.If you want her to think you’re a desperate loser, who has nothing else to do in his day, has no social life and who’s world revolves around her, then go ahead, text her back instantly, every single time.Everything leading up to the meet up should demonstrate value, build her comfort levels and excitement about meeting you.Ok, so you’ve been down the gym, had a damn good workout and think she’d appreciate a ripped photo of you with your shirt off. If you haven’t built up enough attraction yet, topless photos will scare her off.Your level of investment must either match or be lower than hers, so adapt to her texting style and respond in tune with her. To avoid slipping into the friend zone at all costs, avoid idle chit chat like the plague.