When that are either avoidant or anxious, or some combination.
Codependent dating relationships
Any slight or imagined chink in their ideal image of their partner feels painful.
As narcissists’ vision of their perfect partner deteriorates, their hidden shame increasingly causes discomfort.
They may discover that they’ve been disposed of for a new prospect, cheated on, or two-timed all along.
It’s devastating and can be hard to let go, because all of their memories are happy and wonderful.
They, too, idealize narcissists, who soak up their admiration.
Narcissists are skillful and charming communicators, adept at making people admire and like them.
Narcissists idealize prospective partners to augment their own lack of self-esteem.
The thinking is, “If I can win over the admiration of this very attractive person, then I must be worthy.” As reality creeps into the relationship, they discover that their partner is inadequate or fear that their flawed, empty self will be revealed as expectations for emotional intimacy increase.
They in turn project this onto their partner, whom they criticize and devalue. When their partner’s luster fades, he or she no longer provides a satisfactory object to boost their self-esteem.
They discard their partner and look elsewhere for a new source of narcissistic supply.
For a narcissist, it’s not enough to be liked or appreciated.