Tinder, Instagram, and Google Translate is the trifecta of apps that a non-Portuguese speaking man can use to get a ridiculous amount of dates lined up.
I told a few girls, “You deserve better than a tourist who’s only in town for a week,” which is a pretty radical shift from the way I’ve approached casual travel dating in American cities. Mugging is an issue if you walk through the favelas or walk alone on a quiet street at night.
It’s a little rough around the edges but you know that going in. A lot of people who have lived in Rio for a few years have a mugging story. Since my Portuguese wasn’t that good, I didn’t go out to the bars on my own.
I do realize there’s somewhat of a “geo-arbitrage” effect going on when an American man comes swooping in and starts throwing money around in a 2nd world country.
But even though I had “exotic” American status in this environment, and Rio has a casual sex culture, I still got the feeling that Brazil just had a warmer and more equitable dating market.
Rio’s current dating culture felt like what I imagined 1960s America was — everyone enjoying life and getting a piece of the action.
But the 2010s American dating culture has grown cold, materialistic, and highly transactional.
I turned 29 last month and had never been out of the country, with the exception of Americanized tourist traps from a Caribbean cruise I went on in college.
So I was itching to see what else was out there beyond the American bubble. warmer than it is in America where family and relationships are de-prioritized in place of career and consumerism.
He recently took his first trip abroad and agreed to sit down and answer some of my questions about his time in…Brazil.