They watch how men are treated in online dating and come to the conclusion that this must be about the way things work.
They never consider that looking at the dating world through the lens of technology could lead to inaccurate viewpoint.
He’s thinking that if you see him as a sugar daddy, you’ll be happy to hook up. Touching a woman is a man’s way of saying that you’re his and letting other suitors know they should back off. Your desperate guy will have tried to cling on to women before you.
He’ll likely tell you about these ladies he dated and complain that they didn’t appreciate or understand him.
Or that men and women might act differently in the real world than they do through technology.
(Just ask any of the countless ugly PUA’s (Pick up Artists) that manage to pick up beautiful girls all the time)But Incels aren’t aware of this simple fact because they never got their information about dating through the .
If he’s clinging to you for dear life, you probably won’t see any evidence of a social circle of his own.
This is a guy who defines his own value through a romantic relationship, so he doesn’t know how to develop friendships.
Flowers and candy or small keepsakes are fine early relationship gifts, but expensive, large and numerous gifts come with a red flag rather than a red bow.
The desperate man is going to use gifts as a bribe for your affections. He’ll have his arm around you, take your hand, and stay physically close to you.
Technology continues to change every single aspect of our lives, including our partners. As with all technology, we create it and then You might read the conversation above and rightly wonder why this guy is such an angry, desperate weirdo. There are plenty of weirdos to be found online after all. The left side of the screen will be filled with paragraphs of writing from the man and the right side of the screen will contain a few 3 word responses from the woman. And so the addictive brain chemical dopamine rises in your brain in anticipation for the win. The rat would be rewarded with food pellets at random intervals when it pulled the lever. It’s also what makes many MMORPG’s addictive And the same variable ratio interval is used in Tinder’s famous Swipe Left/Right match system. It’s simply a consequence of the technology itself.(Every human being has intrinsic value. The “Value” being talked about here is what you might call “Sexual market value”)Because of how our biology interacts with the technology, women have the upper hand on online dating (Generally speaking) for the following reasons. This is exactly what they aim for, as do all apps in the attention economy.