With your feelings, as well as those of your friend and your crush on the line, it can be extremely difficult to be sure what the right course of action is to take.
If you aren’t careful, you stand to hurt both your relationship with your friend and your crush, but your feelings may be strong enough to warrant the risk.
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Having a friend date your crush can be a difficult social situation to navigate.
Try talking it out with your friend, especially if they knew you liked the person.
If you had spent a lot of time chatting with your BFF about your crush, it can feel extra confusing if something starts brewing between them.
Ahead, find out how you can deal with this type of situation and move forward to mend what might be a broken heart.1. It can be easy to second-guess your emotions and wonder if you’re being overdramatic, but Hasha wants you to know that no matter what you’re feeling, it’s completely understandable.
“Feelings like anger, hurt, jealousy, mistrust, sadness, and loss are totally expected in a situation like this,” she explains, with the reminder that we’re all unique, and therefore experience negative situations in different ways.2.
As an alternative, try saying something like: “I felt hurt when I saw the news of you and [name of person] dating, because I had communicated my feelings about that person to you.” Hasha also suggests sharing what you would have liked to see happen instead, such as: “It would have been helpful for me if you had talked to me about it first, to give me time to process before you guys started openly dating.”4.
If for some reason your friend know that you liked this person, you’ll probably need to have a different kind of conversation — but it’s still super-important to communicate.
Picture this: You’ve told your best friend all about the person who has caught your eye at school.