Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!Some forums can only be seen by registered members.Now she wants to try to lose some of the weight she gained before she tries to quit again. Seeing her frantically needing a cigarette every ~30 minutes is amazing.
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Not understanding the compulsive fascination with smoking I hit the Internet to educate myself. (If they are lucky) If you don't die from Lung Cancer, you will from numerous other diseases if not from a breathing disorder (COPD, Enphesema) AMAZING... Well you know what that means, it's Junky thinking at it's best.
After a short while I was FLOORED with what I learned. After months of discussions and disagreements she finally agreed to quit. I told her that from what I read, that unless something bad happened to her she would most likey never quit.
She was a chain smoker who smoked about 3 packs a day.
As I was getting to know her and I started develop feelings for her I felt the need to mention to her how bad it was that she smoked that much.
Something really bad has to happen for her to even have a chance. As far as for me, I just can't deal with this anymore.
For some reason I can't stand to be around her anymore or even talk to her on the phone when I can hear her light up and smoke!(seeing a loved one die due to smoking, spittin up blood, etc) I know it was wrong but I did push.I tried telling her what she was doing, bought books, printed out materials for her to read.You learn what drives you, and by keeping the focus on yourself (not them) that is where change occurs in your quality of life, and quality of relationships. Read up on enabling, on co-dependence, on the 12-step program Al-Anon for people who find themself in relationships with addicts. Let's just say the smoke gets to parts you'd rather it not be. I'm sure she knew it was bad for her and gets tired of people telling her how bad it is. It was too bad things didn't work out with her because except for the smoking, there was nothing wrong with her. At my former reserve unit, half the guys chewed some sort of cowpoop-looking stuff. A couple years ago, I dated a non-smoker which had such a great attitude about it that it didn't pose a problem in our relationship and eventually led me to quit six months later. Knowing that he didn't judge me, and that he accepted me and my “fragrance” meant a lot to me, and has helped me a lot when I tried to quit.My in-laws are pushing 80 and are still quite active... Damn I'm feeling old today.think "addict" instead of "smoker" in terms of the relationships you find yourself pulled into and the people you find yourself involved with just knowing or saying "i don't want to be with an addict" is not enough to change your behavior and relationship patterns. She even chewed gum to help her breath so it wouldn't be so bad to kiss her.