So what should you do if you believe that this new man is the one you should have married in the first place?Make life easier on you and him both by postponing the relationship until the divorce is finalized.You will most likely have ongoing contact with your husband after the divorce because of the children.
A new relationship at this time is not going to be based on the real you.
Imagine how differently you will act when you are not under extreme stress and when your life is more stable.
While it feels good to be needed and wanted, it's unlikely that you're emotionally ready to deal with a new relationship.
You will still have to deal with all the issues that caused the breakup of your marriage and make peace with the fact that it's really over.
Legal reasons not to date before divorce As far as the courts are concerned, you are still legally married until the divorce is finalized.
In states that recognize fault in a divorce case, dating during divorce can be viewed as adultery.
Even if your husband has carried on numerous affairs during your marriage, he will not think that you are justified in seeing someone new at this time.
All he will focus on is that he has been wronged and will want to seek justice anyway he can.
It can also have a big impact on whether or not you will receive alimony and how much you receive.
This can even apply to temporary support order, because once again, you are sharing the expenses with someone else.
You need time to discover that you can make it on your own without a man to support you emotionally or financially. When you are going through a divorce, you're usually not in a mental state to make permanent choices.