But, ironically, this also adds so much pressure to have the ~perfect~ romantic getaway that it can, in turn, make you argue more (and subsequently wonder if you should break up if you can't even enjoy Hawaii together).
Because travel CAN be stressful, but it's not a life-or-death matter to deal with flight delays or driving through a new city.
It can even get to the point that your ex doesn’t even remember why he or she is fighting!
In this video, Coach Lee discusses why an ex can be so mean after a breakup – especially if you are trying to save the relationship and get them back.
Often times, your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is mean, angry, and resentful toward you because they feel that you won’t leave them alone and respect their decision.
Sometimes an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend feels that if he or she can hurt you enough that you will finally leave them alone and give him or her space because you will want to be away from him or her.
Your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend toughens up once they realize that they definitely want to go through with the breakup.
The two of you take on roles, with yours being that you are trying to get them back and your ex’s role becomes fighting against that. You want to save the relationship and your ex is fighting against that.
The more that your pressure causes your ex to fight, the more he or she feels the desire to “win,” by getting you out of his or her life.
By backing away from your ex and giving them the breakup, you also prevent a major hurdle to them coming back to you.
For example, if your ex starts thinking that they could get back together with you and that they might reach out to you BUT then they remember how you responded to the breakup, they might not reach out at all.
This is because they don’t want to risk things not working out again and them having to experience your breakup response again. So in order to get the space they want and the breakup they want, your ex will try to make you an enemy since they feel that going the other route didn’t work.