A man's instinct is to look after himself first and foremost, while women have valued their independence long before they were even given civil rights.
When men do communicate, they like to get to the point, but women enjoy talking for its own sake.
Thus a gap in communication is created and we have the root of most problems in a relationship.
They basically speak two completely different languages.
Men talk in very literal terms while women use a more artistic and dramatic vocabulary to fully express their feelings.
Men like to sort their thoughts out before communicating them and thus become distant and non-communicative as they ponder their feelings.
However, women like to sort their thoughts out by talking about them and have the tendency to provide a repetition of grievances as they express their concerns.
Men want their solutions to be appreciated; women want their assistance to be appreciated and somewhere along the line all this gets misunderstood.
When faced with tough times, men become non-communicative so they can work out how best to help themselves, while women become communicative so that others can work out how best to help them.
This difference between men and women can lead both to feeling personally to blame for the others problems - which is not true, but the divide in communication can make it seem that way.