People with BPD are usually very codependent individuals.They seek the same love and affection that codependents seek.And remember my starting premise – you always have those two options when your date comes with a crazy ex.
Until you tackle your bad needy habits, your codependent side will be exposed just like the true character of a BPD – one that has complete lack of emotional control, instability, fear and more.
Therefore, you must have control over your emotions 99% of the time if you wish to break free from codependency.
It is also the only way to date borderline individuals.
As you spend the time to learn more and more about codependency, you’ll notice that it overlaps which many other types of behavioral personality disorders such as HPD, NPD, BPD and more.
Maybe she got a hold of your cell number and she texts you nasty-grams. Some may consider this one of several potential dating red flags – likely to arise if his divorce is not yet final, if he hasn’t been divorced for long, or if there’s a legal action still brewing. ” Ask Yourself Hard Questions Shouldn’t we pose a few questions, like – * Do we sense we’re in harm’s way?
Isn’t this a little more than we bargain for, even with that irritating term “baggage?Here you are, finally dating after divorce, and you’ve met a great guy! But we’ve all read the stories and heard plenty – the enraged former spouse who takes their frustration out on whomever their ex is dating, at least for awhile. If the divorce came as a shock, if the spouse found out about a long term affair or a series of affairs, if the ex is constantly playing games with child support or visitation – – I can well imagine that a certain amount of “irrational” behavior may take hold. If you’re anything like me, you’re wary of your judgment when you’re first dating after divorce.He treats you like a queen, he’s fun to be around, and the sex is fantastic. You’re not sure you can trust what you hear, much less your own feelings.* Listen to your gut, use common sense, be sure to stay safe.* Consider what you’ve heard, what you know, and how comfortable you feel with the situation – for yourself and your kids.The more I educated myself on human behavior and relationship mindsets, the quicker I conquered my codependency issues.